The first time one of my daughters’ told me she wasn’t sure that she wanted kids, I’ll be honest, I felt a tinge of guilt and shame. Certainly, if she didn’t want children that meant I had FAILED as a mom, right? Doesn’t every little girl want to grow up to be “just like her […]
A few years ago, after I had gathered so much research on distress and perfectionism, I was trying to think of ways that I could take the academic literature and share it with families and individuals who live and work in the trenches of family life in our technologically driven world. I had been thinking […]
With the exception of the study of how religious organizations impact the development of perfectionist thinking, I would say that this topic- the study of discrepant self-identity- is at the root of all of my research, conversations, and platform. The truth is, religion, perfection, and discrepant self-identity go so hand in hand that they are […]
A few years ago, my husband and I built our dream home. In every possible way it was custom planned, designed, and constructed according to our dreams, desires, values, and priorities. We had envisioned fun family parties, hosting holiday gatherings, and celebrating weddings, grand-kids, and major life accomplishments in this home! We spent one year […]
